Thursday, January 25, 2007

I ponder...


So, I have a challenge. A challenge to answer a question, and I am hoping to illicit some help from my blogger homies. I have been seeing a young girl in therapy, and today she asked me something. She asked me if I knew what it was like to be in love with someone that does not love you back? I pondered this question for awhile, and I am sure I could probably look back into my past and answer, "yes." But, what if that someone loved me and was just too much of a coward to admit it? What if for whatever reason they would do everything and anything to push you away, and you never budge?

So, as you ponder this...Happy HNT!

xoxo!
andi

8 comments:

Unknown said...

dayum.... i like. HHNT hon. love em titties. mmmmmmm

The Chief said...

I know exactly what that feels like. It feels like you are running full speed toward a brick wall and can't stop your head from slamming into it. It's like those dreams where you are running from something you can't see, but it feels like you are in quicksand and can't get away. You do everything, try everything, give everything, sacrifice everything, be everything.... and still they don't possess the capacity to return even a little bit of what you offer. It hurts, but the love you feel for them is SO deep, that you can't admit to yourself that you are wasting your time and need to walk away. So you stay and tell yourself it will get better in time and that all it will take for them to wake up is continued exhaustive heart and soul effort that you put into it. And finally after all the pushing away and pushing of your buttons and the harsh words and the un-reciprocated feelings, one dumb little thing finally presses you to the breaking point, and you snap... You walk away, sure that your heart will be broken into little pieces and that you will never recover. And you know what???? You do... and it is the best feeling you ever feel in your entire life. And life DOES go on... and you are hopefully smart enough not to make the same mistake twice, and you are stronger for it.

Oh and BTW sweetheart... love the breast shot.

Jon said...

Yes, I totally know what that feels like. The sad thing is I believe if I wasn't such a coward it might have been different

Edtime Stories said...

Love has to be a two-way street and the bottome line is that one has to be open to taking the chance. Too bad people don't think the chance is worth taking so often. People have pushed me away, at one point I simply realized life is too short not to keep moving.

Karl said...

Good Morning Andi,

Love has to work both ways or it will not work at all. There are to many people in the world, for her to waste her time on a one sided relationship.

your HNT is a far more enjoyable topic!

RobynB said...

Its very sad to love someone that doesn't love you back. I've been on both ends of the dilema and neither are pleasant.

Just remember, you can't make someone love you and you can't love enough for the both of you.

Tell her to do whatever it takes, but move on. Life is too short and she will find someone worthy of the love she has to give.

Hugs sweetie!

Mike said...

I have asked that question many times over.

sxuly yrs said...

Good advice friends!! I cant wait till my next session!

Hugs,
Andi

PS-it feels great to be topless again!